I really felt good yesterday - you know why?
I raised my voice and yelled, I stamped my feet ( not very hard ofcourse, didn't want to have an earthquake in Central India!!) - in short I indulged in a full fledged tantrum throwing.
And why not? After being the eldest person around dozens of youngsters for three months, I find I am suddenly the youngest person around in the house these days... I told you guys that my parents were celebrating their golden anniversary, right? So the house is full of my mausis, uncles, mamis and ofcourse there is always dear hubby who is a full five years older.
I got suddenly upset about something - a routine, daily kind of matter - and rather than pondering over it and feeling bitter or upset and 'plotting a strategy'to have ' my way' I let the whole world know as loudly as I could that NO, this was NOT acceptable; I need, I DEMAND a change - and then I walked off in mock huff!
And you know it worked!! I had people, more specifically, two 'helpers' involved ( a polite word for servants - the domestic variety so common in India ) running after me and pacifying me... no, Nita didi - as they call me - don't be upset, don't be angry - ofcourse your bidding shall be done - see, we are doing it right now... and then they laughed "hehehehe" to show there was no ill feeling or rancour on any side and first of all made themselves cups of hot tea so they could settle down to 'manao' me properly.
My point in this whole juvenile sounding event is - it is alright sometimes to tell the world that you are upset, that you are angry. You only have to follow some rules -
When you are venting out, keep your real anger in check and don't let your tongue run away with you, or you'll end up saying things you'll regret for a long time.
Whenever possible, don't get specific and personal so no one is offended. Keep it on a general level. Like instead of saying " YOU did this and I don't like it ..." say " I am upset because these things are happening"
the whole objective is NOT to guilt trip anyone, I really believe it is one of the vilest things to do - but to make them feel, yes, inadevertently, without really meaning to, in some harmless way - they have definitely let you down and if they do things just a little differently everyone would be so much happier!
My little tantrum really cleared the air that day - my point was understood, I was pampered and there were no hurt feelings anywhere around.
How effective was it ? Tommorow will tell - but then as Scarlett O Hara always liked to say " tommorow is another day!"
